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On not worrying

I’m not the best qualified person to write about this but when has that ever stopped me.

A few weeks back, as we rolled towards the new year, I started to ponder resolutions. It’s something I think of every new year, even if I don’t publically state them. There seems to be something about the ‘new’ part of the new year which allows for a clean slate, new beginnings and all that.

As ever most of my resolutions focus on being better, rather than worse*, at things in my life that I could control. Read more, exericse more, etc etc. Nothing revolutionary or notable there.

It seems, however, that I have subconsciously been taking another tack. Whilst I’ve been joining gyms and buying books, my brain has been busy churning away in the background and has, a few weeks late, that my new year resolution will be to avoid negativity wherever I can.

I’m not quite sure what that means in any specific detail but the facts remain that I find myself shying away from people who moan and gripe for no good reason, letting things go when all they will do is wind me up, and trying to improve my outlook in general.

The glass is half full.

I’m not always successful, and occasionally I think I’m dismissing some things that I should be tackling but I’m presuming my brain knows what it is doing (heaven knows I’ve no idea what I’m doing. Does anyone? REALLY?).

In the midst of this, as most of you know, my Mum was rushed to hospital and almost 9 days later she is still there (slowly improving).

So, whilst it’s a cliche I don’t really care because it’s true, but there is always someone worse off than you. In the grand scheme of things, the irks and bugbears we (yes I’m still doing my share of moaning, I didn’t say I’d cracked this yet!) continue to bleat and harp on about are but blips. We are only here for a short while, and I’m determined to make the most of it.

So, you. Yeah, you. Stop moaning about how “the world” is out to get you, about how everyone else has it better, because it’s not changing anything. Only YOU can change YOU and, until you do, I’ll be over here, smilingly ignoring you.

I’m aware this is all a bit obvious and self-serving, and that certain events during life will spark the same thoughts in others but it felt like something I had to write.

* Does anyone ever resolve to be worse at something?

# ~ Personal Musings 7 Comments


Comments (7)

LucaJanuary 18th, 2011 at 4:10 pm

Thanks for that Gordon. A very healthy attitude to have or develop. So true that moaning does not change anything (and yet I’m so guilty of it, especially in “the world is out to get me” variation).

There’s a quote by Stefan Sagmeister I often remind myself of: “Complaining is silly. Either act or forget”.

LesleyJanuary 18th, 2011 at 4:35 pm

And after “don’t worry” comes “be happy”!

LyleJanuary 18th, 2011 at 4:46 pm

Yes, I always make a resolution to be worse at being crap.

But I usually fail.

gillianJanuary 19th, 2011 at 1:02 pm

get well soon Gordon’s mum x

PewariJanuary 19th, 2011 at 8:13 pm

I agree – wanted to comment because I’ve found myself thinking a lot about this post this morning.

Although I would possibly modify it slightly in that I surround myself with people who are true to themselves and passionate about things. I think there is a certain quality of positivity that can become very fake and almost as bad as negativity (and I know I can tend to *appearing* like this when I’m on a happiness high – things have been going well for me recently and I’ve been very conscious of being diplomatic around friends who are having a shit time to not come across as OVER positive and happy).

I also have friends who do thoughtful negativity – not being negative just for the sake of a whinge, but who will have a very constructive, well-thought out negative opinion about something. Not always comfortable to be around, but always help me to think about things in a way I wouldn’t have done before so I suppose the net result is positive?

Anyway, I’m rambling and I should probably have done a blog post of my own rather than take up your comments box :D

Ian's MumJanuary 19th, 2011 at 9:06 pm

Get well soon Gordon’s Mum. I have been worrying about you.

GordonJanuary 31st, 2011 at 9:18 am

Luca – LOVE that quote, will store that one away I think.

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